Not considerate of others
Before You Begin
Pause and breathe. Even if this shouldn't be happening... accept that it is and embrace it with composure and calmness.
Calmness is the only way forward because without calm, there is no possibility for receptiveness and connection. Your child won't give to you any more than they see from you.
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Never forget that a strong connection is fundamental, as there will be no correction in them if there is no connection with you.
The Core Problem
A lack of empathy and understanding of others' feelings and needs.
What Will Make It Worse
Punishing this behavior for punishment's sake won't teach them anything, and will only build bitterness inside of them.
What The Child Needs
1. To grow their awareness of others' basic needs: The child needs to build their understanding of empathy, and respecting others' feelings, needs and perspectives. Engage the child in a conversation about how they think their actions and words might affect others negatively, looking at recent past situations through these lenses. Using this new understanding, talk about how they could handle future situations better to be more considerate to others.
2. To have considerate behavior modeled to them: Be a role model for considerate behavior by showing kindness and respect towards others. Enable your child seeing what you talked about put into action.
How To Have The Conversation With Your Child
Find a calm moment when you think your child would be receptive to talking.
Share with them that you have noticed they have been less considerate of others lately. Express that you know they are a good person and it is easy to get caught up in what we need in the moment. But sometimes we need to pause and ask if the way we are getting what we want is having a negative effect on those around us. To illustrate this point, give them the example of a kid talking loudly on their cellphone in the middle of a movie theater, asking their mom if their friend can come over for a sleepover.
Let them know that this conversation isn't about making them feel bad, it is about growing their awareness of how our actions affect others. Tell them that it doesn't take much time at all to get better at this.
Next talk through "What The Child Needs" point 1 with them in an engaging way that feels like an interesting thought activity.
Ideally the conversation ends with them feeling good about how to be more considerate.
In the following days, praise any effort they put into being more considerate, and, when possible, explain why you are doing what you are doing in order to be considerate to others.